Never seek the spectacular in finding a partner.

Tony believes in being spiritual in all that he does, he prays for practically everything that he does, and when he receives a manifestation on the issue, he believes that it was the Lord that is responding to his prayer.

When he met Tola, he prayed over the issue and had a dream which he saw them going to church for the marriage ceremony. He accepted it as God’s will, despite the glaring evidence that she was not a committed Christian. He proposed, and she gave him an affirmative answer. Three years after marriage, Tony became frustrated with the marriage; for the three years of marriage, his wife has gone against everything he perceived the Lord wants him to do. One of which is to resign from his job and take up a full time ministry job in the denomination he attends; she threatened to divorce him if he takes that step.

I guess you are familiar with stories like, where men and women had spectacular manifestations yet didn’t check out the facts that they can see before marriage and today live with regrets.

Singles who are Christian, sometimes seek spectacular manifestation when they feel matured enough for marriage; they want to see visions, dream dreams and hear an audible voice saying “This is the person I have chosen for you.” Some singles have become susceptible to deception as a result of this desire for the spectacular. Wisdom demands that you know what the will of your heavenly Father is; He never told you to look for the spectacular but to simply walk in truth as written in the Bible.

However, if as single, you have these manifestations, do not just accept it as a leading from the Lord. Examine these manifestations in the light of God's word; if it conflicts with it, then the manifestation is not from God. When I was in the university, a Christian Brother said he heard an audible voice that said to him, “This is your wife”, concerning a lady that was not a believer on campus. He believed that it was the Lord that spoke to him, and he entered into relationship with her. The voice he heard was definitely not from the Lord, because God's word is emphatic on a believer not being unequally yoked with an unbeliever.

King Solomon declares that, “If you find a wife, then you have found a good thing. She shows that the Lord is happy with you.” Proverbs 18:22.

Getting the right person demands your active participation. Someone once said, “The gods will not do for man, what man can do for himself”; so play your part by opening your eyes, getting information about the person, interacting, etc.

Femi Fasanya is a talented author and speaker with a message that transcends barriers of age, culture and status. He is a TV presenter and a celebrated speaker in seminars. He is the founder of Singles Affair Ministry and is happily married to Doyin. He can be reached through the following relationshipmatters@gmail.com and +2348037257479, for counseling.